Doosri Shaadi???

Discussion in 'Gupshup' started by Aroosa, Nov 5, 2004.

  1. Aroosa

    Aroosa New Member

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    salam dosto

    aaj mai aap logou se iss topic per discuss kerna chahri hoon. Meri samjh mai aik baat nahi ati kai Admiou ko doosri shadi kerne ki kiou zaroorat pesh ati hai. Islam mai 4 shadiou ki ijazat hai lekin kisi majboori kai tehaat, jaise kai jhaang kai zamane mai etc. lekin yeh kya kai inssan apne Nafss ko khush kerne kai liye shadia pe shadia kerta rahe ????
    Aik aur baat yeh hai kai Quran majeed mai likha hai kai ager tumhe darr ho kai tum do yaa ziada biwiou mai insaaf nahi kersako ge to tum aik hi se kero.
    Aur hazoor s.a.w kai siwa iss dunia mai koi bih sahi Insaaf nahi kersakta.
    mujhe sirf iss baat pe aitraaz hai kai insaan khud garz hoker doosri shadi kere, aur apni biwi mai khaamia dhoonde aur bahaane kere. aap saab ki kya Rayee hai???????
     
    Last edited: Nov 5, 2004
  2. me here

    me here New Member

    w.salam aroosa sis!!!
    & urdupages & gupshup main KHUSH AMDEED!!!:):)
    ap buhat acche & ahm thread k sath ai hain!!!
    doosri shadi ya teesri kerni chahiye but jab zarorat ho but ager zarorat na ho to bilkul nahin kerni chahiye....
    ik insan k sath insaf kerna hi itna mushkil hota hai do main to aur bhi mushkil hota ho ga....
    wase bhi dosri shadi se ap apni pehli wife ko accha khasa hurt ker dete ho jo k buhat ghalat hai...
    ik lerki ki jab shadi hoti hai to wo tamam tar khaloos apne husband & unki family k liye waqf kerna chahti hain & jo k uska farz bhi hai but phir husband ko bhi to us lerki ka khiyal kerna chahiye & lerki ko bhi chahiye k wo aise na khush gawar mahol na peda kare jo us k hus ko dosre shadi per majbor kare....
     
  3. Aanchal

    Aanchal New Member


    yeh to larkay hi bata saktay hain kay woh doosri shadi kayoun kerna chahtay hain ? ;)
    islam main 4 shadeoioun tak ki ijazat hai laiken is key leye asool bhi bataye gay hain ..(quran pak ka sahi ilm rekhnay walye in asloun kay barey main bata saktay hain kay kaisaya sool hotay hain )insaaf bhi lazmi hai ...
    aksar loog aik biwi ko kush nahi reakh saktay dossri shadi kernay ki pari hoti hai :rolleyes:
    jab doosri shadi ki baat hoti haai to sab say pehlay yehi baat keh di jati hai kay islam main jaiz hai ......aksar loog 5 waqat ki namaz to parhtay nahi na hi islam kay mutabik chaltay hain jahan shadi ki baat ai islaam ki baat shuru........
    aik larki apna sab kuch maa baap ghar baar sab kuch choor kay ati hai ..shadi kaay bad woh sab kuch apnay husband kaay ghar ko samajhti hai ....husband jaisa bhi hoo aksar larkian unhay qabool kar laiti hain laiken aurat main zara koi kami hoo admi fourn dossri shadi ka kahayal dil main laytay hain .....
    hamaray han to bachpan his ay larkoun kay kanoun main yeh baat daal di jati hai kaay islaam main 4 shadiyan jaiz hain ...isi leye pehli biwi ko achi taraha reakhian ya na reakhian doosri shadi zaror kerni hai .....
    jab aik larki ki shadi hoti hai to maa baap kehtay hain kay tumharay husband ka ghar hi tumhara asli ghar hai ..apnay husband kay sath nibha kay reakhan waghera waghera....laiken yehi baat larkay kay waldeen unhay kayoun nahi samjhtay kay tum bhi apni biwi ka khayal reakhna apni shadi ko nibha kay reakhan ???
    or itni mehngai main aik biwi or bachoun ka sahi say guzaara hoo jaye yeh bhi buhat hai :p ...pher dosriiii....ufff :rolleyes:

    dossri shadi islam main mana nahi hai ..jin ki aulad nahi hoti ya koi or problem hoti hain woh shadi kar saktay hain laiken islam kay taqazoun kay mutabik...baat pher vohi a jaati hai kitnay loog is baat pay amal kartay hain ?..............
     
  4. zaalim

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  5. zaalim

    zaalim Premium Member

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  6. only4lovers

    only4lovers New Member

    Lagta hai k Zaalim hum sub ko pichay choor day ga kabhee na kabhee pehlay hi post Kar daita hai Dosra jawab hi nahi day sakta Good bhai
     
    Last edited: Nov 5, 2004
  7. only4lovers

    only4lovers New Member

    Hilay bahanay se kiya morad jo hakeekat hai So hakeekat hai. Barhal is ka jawab main tafseelan baad main doon ga InshAllah
     
  8. only4lovers

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  9. Aanchal

    Aanchal New Member

    zalim samaaj is main heelay bahanay ki kia baat hoo rahi hai han ? :mad: ..har aik ka apna point hai , apni sooch hai chaye doosray is say muttafiq houn chaye na houn ....
    or dossri baat aap nay ki kay aurat namaz waghera ki baray main husband say kuch nahi kehti to kia tum nay un kay ghar ja kay deeakha hai kay nahi kethi ????????main nay deeakha hai kai baar biwiyan apnay husbands ko bhi is ki talqeen karti rehti hain..yeh or baat hai woh aik kaan say sun kay dossray kaan say nikaal dain :rolleyes:
     
  10. Aanchal

    Aanchal New Member


    or han zalim aap apni is baat ki zara wazahat karain gay jo aap nay kaha hai kay admi 4 beveoun kay elawa jitni chaye ghulam aurtain reakh sakta hai .................yeh jo akhri wala poora julma hai is ki ......

     
  11. only4lovers

    only4lovers New Member

    Lagta hai k Zaalim gaya kam se
     
  12. zaalim

    zaalim Premium Member

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  13. shy

    shy New Member

    2nd shadi mere khial me nahi karni chaey kiun ke me ne kuch logon ka personal mushahida kia he ke phir un ki life me se sakoon naam ki cheez khatam ho jati he.or khas ker wo log jo bila kisi zarurat ke esa karte hen.pehli shadi to arrange hoti he jab ke 2nd wali khufia tareeke se hoti he yani chor raste se or sab se zeada nuksan peli shadi wale bachon ka hota he jo sare khandan me apne baap ki waja se mujrim ban jate hen. :(
     
  14. zaalim

    zaalim Premium Member

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  15. Aroosa

    Aroosa New Member

    aanchal aap ne bohat ache points bataey hain, joke mai bih yehi khiaal rakhti hoon. assal mai baat yeh hai kai hum muslims akser aise hain joke islam ki uss chiez ko foraan amaal mai lana chahtey hain jo kai humare nafs ko bih passand arahi ho. mazhaab ko maan lena aur uss ki jo bih sherte passand ki hou wo maan lena aur jo passand ki naa ho wo chodh deni, yeh to ghalt hai.

    Mera iss topic per baat kerne ka maqsad yeh tha kai wo log jo majboori kai ilawa shadi kerte hain wo ghalat kerte hain. mujhe iss baat ka achi tarah se samjh hai kai allah tallah ne ager yeh islam mai rakha hai to iss kai piche koi hikmaat hai.
    Mujhe un logo per afsoss hota hai jo shadi ko shaid koi mazaq samjhte hain. Jo mehfilou mai beth ker doosri shadi kai topics per beth ker mazee se hansi mazaq kerte hain.
    Zaalim aap ne kaha kai baghair nikah kai jo ulaad hoti kisi ghulam auart se... mere khiaal mai apko koighalatfehmi jhoi hai , maine aaj tak aisi baat nahi suni kai islam aisy ijazat ho.
     
  16. zaalim

    zaalim Premium Member

    aap ne bilkul sachchi baat ki hai.
     
  17. zaalim

    zaalim Premium Member

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  18. Aanchal

    Aanchal New Member

    zalim tumharai aik baat ka jawab to yeh hai kay jaisa tum nay kaha kay "islam ki mukhlafat kar rehay hain ham".
    ham islam ki mukhalafta nahi kar rehay ....jaisa kay main nay kaha nay kay islam main jaiz hai doosri shadi laiken koi na koi waja to hoti hai na ..asool hotay hain har cheez kay ....na kay jab dil chaha doosri shadi ka kahyal aya or lay aaye doosri biwi.............is taraha to kai muasharti masayal bhi paida hotay hain...........jin jin ki main nay 2 shadiyan deekhi hain un main say aik bhi kamyaab shadi nahi keh saktay :rolleyes:


    or tumharai doosri baat ka jawab kay tum nay kaha kay ghulam aurtian apnay paas reakh sakta hai ...........to is ka jawab yeh kay tum neand main bool rehay hoo kia ??? :rolleyes: ...islam main bagheer nikha kay kisisi aurat say aisay taulaqqaat nahi paida keye ja saktey !!!!!!
    islam say pehlay yeh hota tha islam kay bad nahi!
    jab itni sari aurtaian apnay paas reakh sakta hai to pher shadi ka faida ??? chaye doosri hoo chaye tesree
    khair main kahi say is point pay search kar kay tumhaye bataoun gee ...
     
  19. zaalim

    zaalim Premium Member

    haan tumhari baat theek hai aisi koi bhi shadi kaamiyaab nahi hoti. magar kyoon kaamiyaab nahi hoti? sirf is liye ke auraten khuda ka faisla nahi maanti. aur ek doosray se larna shuru kardeti hain. to zaahir hai phir aise mein shaadi kaise kaamiyaab hogi?
    aur dono biwiyaan yeh soch kar hansi khushi rehnay lag jaayen ke doosri shaadi ki ijaazat to Allah ne di hai. phir kuch jhagra nahi hoga aur shaadi bhi kaamiyaab hojaaye gi.
    vaise mujhe pata hai ke aurten is maamlay per khuda ka faisla kabhi tasleem nahi karen gi. is liye phadda to hamesh hoga.


    tum ne Quran ka Urdu tarjuma parha hai kabhi? mujhe to lag raha hai ke neend mein tum bol rahi hai.
    yaar main aap ko saaf saaf keh to raha hoon ke kisi bhi aalim-e-deen se meri baat ki tasdeeq kar len. aur kitni vaaza baat karoon main?
    ya aap aisa karen ke Islam section mein ek thread post kar kay pooch len kisi se bhi.

    ek baat aur kehna chahta hoon. kuch deeni masaail aise hotay hain jin ko ek firqa maanta hai doosra nahi. lekin ghulaam aurton waali jo baat hai is ko tamaam firqay maantay hain. is mein koi controversy hai hi nahi. lagta hai tum ne aur aroosa ne parha hi nahi hai quran aur islamic literature.
     
  20. Aroosa

    Aroosa New Member

    zaalim , aap jo yeh baat kaih rahe hain mai iss baat se bilkul bih yaqeen nahi kersakti. jAHA tak quran kai tarjuma ki baat hai, to mere sawal aap se yeh hai kai kya Aap ne ussi tarjumai ki tafseer padhi hai???
    Quran majeed mai bohat si aisi batain hain jinki ager tafseer maloom na ho aur insaan uss baat ko thik se naa samjhe to wo aisey tarjuma jan-ne ka kya faida.
    quran majeed mai jaha per janat mai milne wali hoorou ka ziker hai, waha uski tafseer padhiey to uss mai likha hai, kai janat mai wo hi dunia wali Paak nek biwi hogi , jokai hoor ki shakal mai khoobsoorat hogi. (matlab uss ki rooh itni khoobsoorat hogi)
    aab tafseer to aap khud padh li-jiye , maine apko sirf ek misaal di hai.
    aur jaha tak ghulam aurtou se ulaad hone ki baat hai to aap khud sochain kai allah tallah ne pihr nikah kerne ka kiou hukam dena tha? aur waise bih nikah se pehle to islam mai apni kisi mangeter se bih aisy talauq rakhne ki ijazat nahi hai.
     
    Last edited: Nov 6, 2004

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